Kylie: Going to hospital was my way of getting
away from my home.
I had a lot of asthma attacks because I was very stressed
in the environment that I was in in hospital. Everyone
was so nice. I was very scared of my dad and how
my dad treated my mom. I watched him push my mom down
the stairs. I watched my mom get dragged from the from
the gutter across a massive front yard and then up
some ... up a couple of stairs. So, yeah, a lot of
memories like that.
the year of, me completing year 12, in April my dad just
packed up the car and he left, and I did not see
him for 15 years.
After my dad left in April, in July, my mum went up
to Cairns. And I decided to stay down here because I
wanted to finish year 12. The day after I graduated
year 12, I got on a train and went up to Cairns
within a few weeks of being in Cairns, I had met a guy
and we had a baby.
It was a domestic violent relationship. There was an incident
that happened, and ... the neighbours had called the police
and we had to go and attend D.V. domestic violence court
After court, he gave me $100, asked his mom to look
after our baby. He took off to the pub, and told me
to go out. So I called my best friend, and she's like
oh well, I was going out to dinner with a friend of mine
from work. Do you still want to come? And I said yeah I'd
love to come. And that's where I met my husband,
our first child together. At 14 days old, we found
out that he had P.K.U. where his body cannot break
down protein. What food do you think we should pack
for Blake? For the party?
Husband: Some bread,
Husband: What else is in there?Kylie: So that's Blake's whole shelf. This is Blake's P.K.U.
bread mix. Chicken patty mix. Flakes. Pasta, Rice
crackers, egg, spaghetti. If he doesn't keep to this diet
he will grow up into an adult with the worst brain
damage that there is. And then 13 months later, we
had our second born together. My third child. What
do you want? Lackey,
we had no idea what was going on. It was just 6
to 8 months of crying 24 hours a day, seven days a week.
And then, yeah, when he was eight months old
we found out that, we've got the diagnosis, that he had
cerebral palsy
Neurologist came in and said to us, he'll never walk,
He'll never talk. He will never move. He'll just be
a vegetable, put him in a home and forget about him
because he won't make it past five years old.
And that's why we're chucking a massive 10... 10 year
old party today. I was crying, and as soon as he left
the room, my husband and I looked at each other and just went
we'll prove him wrong.
We fundraised $40,000 in six months to get our four
year old son to America, to do 15 days of intense
therapy to help towards him walking. And then we get
back... and we get back, and then a month later, on Boxing
day, my... I found out... on Boxing Day, my brother took
his life
at the time, believing that I was the big sister, I... I blamed
myself. Yeah it was a very difficult time, I just wanted
to go and join my brother. I just wanted to end the
pain. I just... I was very tired and I was sick of
fighting, to try and stay alive.
The night before my brother's funeral, I found my dad
and then I got a chance, to tell my dad that I
forgave him for everything, and he... said sorry for everything.
And then I got to show him 19 months off love, forgiveness
acceptance and what it feels like to have someone to
like, care about you.
It was always my dream to write a book, it wasn't till
my brother took his life, that that dream... that dream came
back, but I wasn't ready. I started writing it, but
only got a couple of pages done. 14 months later, my
dad took his life in hospital. There was staff on that
night that did the paperwork in correctly, like ticking
and signing that he was in the common area when he
wasn't
so in August, when my dad took his life, I was focused
on clearing up or his affairs and all of that again
everything in order. In September, I start going out
to the beach and just writing, just writing everything
down I could remember, and then start of December, I went
back to the seven day authors retreat, and I did like
19 hours of writing in seven days, and then, on Christmas
Eve, I sent off my manuscript.
Kylie: Cain had to get up four thirty this money and go
to work.
training to be a cook... these going in here, Thanks.
Sounds good. So I was just focused on the special needs
super-moms online TV show. It's not just getting on and doing
a video... tells, like, build your brand, and then there was
create your content, and there was marketing, and there
was like, promoting it all and that,
I don't share my story for myself, like because my
story no longer defines me. My story is no longer
who I am, like... it's my past. I am a published author
and I'm an inspirational speaker and I'm a life coach
and I am a host and producer of online show, and I live
a very inspiring and very happy and healthy life. I
don't come from a victim mentality, and I don't share
my story for myself. I share my story to help and
inspire others. I want people to know that they're
not alone. When I was growing up, no one talked about it.
No one shares what life is like having loved ones
with disabilities. No one shares what life is like
having family members with mental health issues.
It's important to take care of the carer and look after
yourself, because if your glass is empty, you've got
nothing else to give anyone else. You gotta keep your
glass full so you can keep going with your caring role.